Advice from the past: the last one who marries a good family is often a girl who doesn't fit in with others

In life, many people choose to be sociable blindly for the sake of interpersonal relationship. In order to talk with their friends, they have to echo the topics they are not interested in, as if they are particularly popular with more friends.

Indeed, today's social circle is wealth. If you meet a noble person who can help you, you can avoid many detours. Most people know the importance of networking, so many people have to be a person who understands the world and caters falsely. But there is a group of girls who don't like to run social circles. Unlike those who have a lot of friends, they are very unsociable.

For example, when I was in college, a roommate was a typical "out of group". When others were playing games in Internet cafes, she was reading in the library by herself. She was also very aloof and didn't like to talk to others, so few people made friends with her.

At that time, we all felt that a person with such a character would be very lonely after graduation. She would neither get along well with her colleagues nor please the leaders. How could she live a good life?

But time has changed. When we met again, we found that she was the one who had the best life in school. In our eyes, the girl who didn't fit in with others became the happiest woman in the marriage. She not only had a husband who loved her, but also had a very sensible child. We thought it was incredible. But when we thought about it carefully, it was inevitable.

I want to remind all the girls that those who marry well in the future are usually those who are not in the same class.

1、 It's not that she's not sociable, it's just that she doesn't have you in her circle

Some girls don't seem to have many friends. In fact, the quality of her friends is not the quantity. She may only have a few true friends, and she seldom contacts them. But as long as there is something, those friends will guide him in the right direction. His gregarious side just doesn't show up in front of you. Maybe in the circle she recognizes, she has another kind of character, She doesn't think it's necessary to waste time on people and things that are not worth it.

In fact, it's not necessarily good to be able to find the right and left, because she doesn't have her own personality. Just like Tetris, if she is gregarious, she will disappear. There are thousands of forms of people. If everyone is the same, she will become a transparent person.

It doesn't matter which day she is absent, because she has no sense of existence. In order to please others, she lowers her bottom line repeatedly, and no one really cares about her feelings. After a long time, you will find that although you have many friends, you have few friends. Some people even think that she is easy to bully and make fun of her.

Such a woman should change her flattering character, otherwise no matter who she marries in the future, she will only grovel to please, even if she is hurt, she will easily forgive, and there is no bottom line. The consequence of doing so is to be trampled on at will, to be aggrieved by oneself all one's life and to help others. How can one be happy?

2、 Most gregarious women are ordinary because their time is wasted socializing

The more girls with high pursuit, the less they will waste their most precious time on such trifles as "gregarious" with others. It's a pity that few people understand this truth. In order to integrate into other people's circle, they spend a lot of time and energy to cater to others. Whether others will accept it or not is a waste of time. It's no longer cost-effective.

It's true that a smooth person can make many friends and establish a complex network of relationships. But the reality is that these fair friends can't help you at a critical time, and they won't become the noble people in your life. On the contrary, after getting along with them for a long time, they will only lose their original shining personality, just like the red face on the Internet.

Really good women don't use relationships to protect themselves. It can also be said that they are strong enough not to need the protection of others. If you are in full bloom, the butterfly will come. That's right. Only if they are good enough, others will gather around them. They don't need to work hard to integrate into others' circle.

Ordinary women always want to climb trees, while powerful women will be their own trees. It's smart women who know how to make themselves excellent and powerful and become the center of the circle. Even if they marry excellent men, they can say without hesitation: "you're good, but I'm not bad.".

Ordinary women are in a passive state. When men love, they can give a few cents. When men don't love, they have nothing left. When they use "gregarious" time to strengthen their women, marriage is only a part of life. Even if they are hurt, they also have other glory. Compared with the two, which one is easier to get happiness? It's obvious.

3、 If a woman wants to be happy, she must say goodbye to the ordinary first

Many women have a good wish to marry Gao Fu Shuai. They want their future husband to be excellent, but they never reflect on whether they are worthy of such excellent people. Cinderella is loved by the prince. It's just a fairy tale.

If a woman wants to have a happy marriage, the most important thing is to be equal in strength. First of all, she is good enough, and the pursuers are all high-quality men. If you are ordinary, the pursuers around you are mediocre. Don't blame the pursuers around you for being too bad. First of all, you have to reflect on yourself. Marriage is icing on the cake, not a timely help.

If you are not satisfied with the pursuers around you, you may as well take time to strengthen yourself. Although the process is very hard, time will repay your efforts. When you are strong enough, the pursuers will naturally be the best.

Conclusion:

Most of the excellent girls are not sociable. They often come and go on their own and are out of place with people who have a group of friends. In fact, life is short, there's no need to waste time on things you don't like, just live comfortably.

Or, as long as you are good enough, even if you are narcissistic, you can always attract others to take the initiative to get close to you. Why do you force yourself into a circle that is not suitable for you? It's more comfortable to be the center of the circle.

Instead of pandering to and flattering others, it's better to enrich yourself with this time. You don't need more people to know you. One or two are enough. Only when you are unique can you be different from others. The more different people are, the less likely they are to be replaced. People who are different are always admired. Do you agree with this? Welcome to comment.

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